Single Or In Relationship? It’s All Good!

You have probably noticed that the focus of the blog is best relationships ever.  After all, it’s the name of the blog so it would be hard to miss.  Unless you’ve had one too many somethings before visiting!   So, where are you on the relationship spectrum, in relationship or single?

Partnered Or Single:  Which Is Better?

Well, I think I’ve already given a hint in the title of the blog:  It’s All Good!

If you’ve delved into the site a bit you’ll realize it is my belief building a good relationship with yourself is the key to having successful (meaning joyful) relationships with others.

It’s not about whether you are in relationship or not, it’s about how you feel about yourself and in your life.  Are you basically happy with the quality of your life?

You know, if you are satisfied with your relationship status and your life, you’re likely to be relaxed about others and their status.  But, have you ever known anyone who thinks everyone should be doing what they’re doing? Or everyone should like what they like, believe what they believe?  Can you think outside the box?

Quite boring really – not to mention impossible!  I remember a lifetime ago I brought a young woman who was traveling in the U.S. from Europe to my small hometown.  My step-grandfather was still alive and we went out for dinner.  He actually gave her a hard time because he loved shrimp and she didn’t care for it.  I was mesmerized – and embarrassed.  We humans are a fascinating lot!

The important thing is to follow your path and that path meanders through all kinds of twists and turns.  It makes for an interesting life.

Right and wrong do not apply. In a relationship or not, married or not, babies or not, shrimp, steak, or vegan,  choose for you and let others choose for themselves! It’s best if you can make your choices from a place of openness to love and life.

Life Presents Different Things At Different Times

At the moment, I’m single.  While I’m open to relationship and welcome the possibility, I am thrilled with life as a single as well. Right now, though, this is the time to be single for me.

I seem to be “married” to my new “baby” at the moment.  Birthing my projects that hopefully can help lots of people and that give me the opportunity to write about my passion and develop products I care deeply about.  It’s a mostly happy time!

Remember the meandering path through life I mentioned.  You get to forge your own path and the ebb and flow of life requires different choices at different times of your life.

If you become too preoccupied with how you want your life to look, you may miss being open to the “flavor” of the moment you’re in, the phase if you will.

Going with the flow, and sometimes the change,  can open you to possibility and you may be pleasantly surprised by the direction your life takes at these times.

You may recall an experience of being upset, or even devastated by a change you did not consciously want. Yet, looking back you realize it was the best thing that could have happened. Have you ever had that experience?  Beautiful, isn’t it, the way this life seems to orchestrate just the right thing at the right moment.

Why Do You Want What You Want?

You want the things you want because you believe you will feel more happy if you have the things.  This applies to relationships,  as well as jobs, travel, a home, or any material item.

So, “get happy”.  Learn to feel good about you. Cut to the chase, eliminate the middle “man” so to speak.  Become happy with you and your relationships will fall into place as if by magic.

It’s kind of like the analogy I use to talk about your body.  If you treat it like a thrift store item rather than your most prized possession you’re not going to have a fun experience with your body – or in life for that matter!

The same can be applied to how you feel about yourself.  If you feel like you’re a thrift store item, what quality relationships do you believe you’ll attract? On the other hand, if you value yourself highly, can you see that you might attract a different type of relationship?

Without getting all new age about it, there is a correlation between how you feel about yourself and what you attract.  And you can learn to feel better about you and improve the quality of your relationships.

I’d love to hear your thoughts and feelings about yourself and your current relationship status.  Or you favorite food choices? 

Speaking of learning to be happy, stay tuned for my newsletter that will give you tips to feel good about you!

In the meantime, be well and  – single, in relationship, married, with or without babies – may you have the best relationships ever!

Warm hugs,

Lauren

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